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Thursday, 22 March 2018

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The Struggle IS Real

Wednesday, 21 March 2018

I was talking to a very close friend recently about why I hate to tell people when I am struggling with something or something is “wrong”. My reaction to their reactions is difficult for me. Many times people’s reactions are something along the lines of “Oh my gosh! I am so sorry!” or “Wow! I am sorry you are suffering so much!” etc.

I think I was really born in the Midwest and somehow switched at birth to the South. I have this severe reticence when it comes to anyone expressing concern in my direction. I want to run and hide, I want to assure the person/people that it’s really ok, there is no reason for them to be distressed on my account. There are plenty of people out there who are really suffering. Yes, I am (at least currently) experiencing what I consider to be a decent amount of pain and discomfort most days but I don’t think I am “suffering”.

I was informed by my friend that this is not some zero sum thing. That just because there are others suffering more than me doesn’t negate what I am going through or mean that people can’t care about me. I guess a lot of it boils down to point of view for me and the fact that I am a severe literalist. When I think “suffering” I think damn near dying. However, I digress.

The point of this is about my reaction to the reactions of others. I am distinctly uncomfortable when others are troubled by something that is going on with me. Therefore I tend to not tell people things that are bothersome to most. The people who are very close to me eventually get it out of me. To say I play things close to the vest would be a bit of an understatement. I never realized until last year how true that was actually.

I tend to think of myself as kind of an open book honestly. Why? Well, because if you ask me a question about myself I generally will answer it. However, I don’t go around blowing my own horn all the time. The idea of posting something on here that told very intimate details of my life totally weirds me out. Though others see my postings as intimate, which on some level they are, but not the daily minutiae that I consider to be the very intimate details of life. I am simultaneously a bit fascinated and weirded out when others can do it.

So, I have finally learned to take compliments with grace. Apparently now I have to learn to figure out how to not run and hide, whether physically, mentally or emotionally when people react when they find out about what is going on with me. Well, at least life is never boring and there are always new lessons to learn!

 

#KeepMovingForward

Tuesday, 13 March 2018

 

I started this funny little thing at the end of 2017 where I would take a picture of my feet in the doctor’s office and post how I was feeling or whatever was going on. Then I started to think about how doing that was showing I was moving forward and doing things even when I didn’t necessarily feel well or didn’t have any spoons. That’s where #KeepMovingForward came from. I wanted to encourage myself to keep kicking and anyone else who needs that encouragement when they are struggling.

I use a variety of techniques to get through the tough days; music, matcha, naps, warm shower, cartoons, reading and pure bullheadedness some days. Then there are the days where I can’t get out of bed for very long. Those are the days I hold onto the wall just to be able to get to the bathroom, that I barely eat and just have to rest. Those are the days where I don’t feel like a person anymore; I am just a body that can’t work, play when it wants to or have the freedom it craves.

Chronic illness and pain saps the very life from us but continuing to plunge forward is how we make it through each day. And that’s not to say that every day is just “getting through” some days are outright sprints to the finish line where we win the race. However, for many of us we have to fight and persevere to get done what seems simple to those who don’t suffer with chronic illness and pain. Not saying that as a pity party line but simple fact. This is why I wanted to keep encouraging myself to keep kicking and moving forward.

A friend picked up on the #KeepMovingForward hashtag when I explained to her what it means to me. She said that it is a message that many folks who are struggling need to hear. Then she started posting pictures of her feet in different places with the hashtag! I got a little weepy when I saw the first picture and then I giggled. So often I know that my conditions make me feel isolated and alone. I want to connect with others who have my conditions or who have chronic illness so that we can support one another. I have joined a few sites looking to connect with others and I go to support group once a month when I feel up to it. So that moment when I saw that my quirky little project had touched something in my friend and it resonated with her was a bright star in my early morning.

Keep reaching out, keep kicking, keep supporting one another…keep moving forward!

#KeepMovingForward

The Purple Pirates are Walking to End Lupus!

Friday, 9 March 2018

Many of you know that I was diagnosed a few years back with Systemic Lupus Erythematosus after being bounced around doctors for 5+ years of them trying to figure out what was wrong. This illness has derailed much of my life and I battle it daily. I am a warrior and will not stop fighting and I am also a pirate who loves a good battle. And this battle is personal and worth it!

Will you make a donation to help me reach my personal fundraising goal of $1000 and support the Foundation’s efforts to improve the quality of life for all people affected by lupus? A generous contribution of $25 or $50 can make a definite impact.

What’s more, if your employer offers a Matching Gift Program to employees, you may be able to double your contribution with just a little bit of paperwork. Trust me, it’s worth the effort! Every single dollar counts!

There’s even still spots left on the Purple Pirates walk team; come join us and help us raise even more! You can link to join the team in the donation link above.

Did you know?

* Lupus is a mysterious and misunderstood autoimmune disease. It strikes without warning, affects each person differently, and has no known causes or cure.
* Lupus symptoms can be severe and highly unpredictable and can damage any organ or tissue, from the skin or joints to the heart or kidneys.
* While lupus can strike anyone at any time, 90% of people living with lupus are women. Women of color are at especially high risk.
* Only one drug has ever been developed and approved by the US Food and Drug Administration specifically to treat the disease.

Together, we can solve the cruel mystery of lupus. Thank you for your generosity!

Love to you all!
Mags

The ADHD Monster

Tuesday, 6 March 2018

I have ADHD and have had it since I was a kid. Sometimes my meds work well. Sometimes they don’t. There is no cure for this and pills help but they don’t solve the problem. I am prone to struggling in areas with a lot of visual and auditory stimuli. I have done therapy, group therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), psychoeducation and more through the years to learn to live with my ADHD and to control as much as I can. I know I am personally responsible for my actions and reactions. Sometimes I need help though and there are times I am just stuck with what my brain is doing to me. Some days it feels like a monster hovering on my shoulder always there ready to jump in and wreak havoc.

ADD and ADHD aren’t just that people can’t focus on a task or are hyper. Here are just a few of the things that people with ADHD deal with daily. Behaviorally they can experience: aggression, excitability, fidgeting, hyperactivity, impulsivity, irritability, lack of restraint, or persistent repetition of words or actions. Cognitively people can have: absent-mindedness, difficulty focusing, forgetfulness, repetition of words, hyper-attention, or short attention span. They can also experience mood swings. Some people don’t develop ADD/ADHD until they are adults, did you know that? And that’s just the tip of the iceberg folks.

I work hard every single day to not let my ADHD cause issues with others. Sadly, sometimes it just happens. I know I can talk, bounce my leg or fidget a lot when I am overstimulated. Believe me when I say that it pains me way more than you can even know once I realize I am doing it. Often, I don’t realize I am doing it until it’s pointed out to me. It is so annoying to me not being able to stop it at times you guys. I deal with it every single day as do my spouse and our roommate. It’s annoying when it happens, I really do get it.

So, why am I writing this? It’s to ask you to help me and others out. When we are bouncing our leg, talking too much, fidgeting, etc. and it annoys you; don’t treat us like an obnoxious kid. We are not kids. We are adults who have a real mental, medical issue. Please speak gently to us, pull us aside, text us if you don’t want to say anything in front of others. But by all that is holy, please don’t yell at us, call us out in front of a huge group, etc. like we are naughty children because we are not. If you spend enough time with one of us that it can be a real issue, let’s try and come up with a hand signal or something that you can give us that will help us realize what we are doing without embarrassing us. Perhaps talk to us when we are having a good day and ask us what it is like for us living with ADD and ADHD. Understanding what someone else is walking through can help with having compassion for them.

I can tell you that when people yell at me or treat me like a naughty kid it makes me feel terrible and not wanted wherever I am. It makes me want to get up and leave the event, dinner, group, or whatever and not come back. It is embarrassing to be treated in such a way as an adult, by other adults. Many others who I have talked to with ADD and ADHD feel this way as well. I get it, it’s annoying but please try to have some compassion for those of us struggling with our own brains on a daily basis. Many of us try very hard to mitigate how our disorder affects those around us that we love and care about and even just the people we meet on the street every day. Please try to extend us the courtesy that we work very hard to extend to all of you whether you know it or not.

Southwest Leather Dreams

Thursday, 30 November 2017

Southwest Leather Conference has been on my bucket list for 5 years. I have been feeling deep in my gut for over a month now that I need to go to SWLC. It’s this feeling of *GO West!*

I am once again at a crossroads in my life and can’t seem to find that deep connection to the energy, the woo, the universal consciousness, whatever you want to call it and I need it. This last couple years is the first time in 30 years that I haven’t been able to reach out and jack into that energy at will. I know the blockage is from all the life miasma that’s been building up but I haven’t been able to shake it. I know with what has happened and what is to come I need my connection back. I have been feeling the loss of it for a while now but not really sure what to do about it. All the ways I used to connect when I was feeling like a stray pup haven’t been working for me. My body is tired, my heart and brain are exhausted.

I know it’s probably too late in the game to even be thinking this is possible but I can’t shake this feeling. I shelved the push when it started because all I could see was how impossible it would be to go. I want to cry when I think about the overall cost of going but at the same time something is telling me this is path to follow. (In my typical smart ass fashion I asked the universe why it couldn’t have been this insistent six months ago when I had a chance of trying to make it happen…no answer was forthcoming.) The Truth is that I already know the answer; I get to the jumping off point when I get there. I am there.

I needed to get it out of my head, own where I am out and put it out into the universe. This is that vulnerable 2am writing that may get deleted when I wake up and the overly logical and defeatist part of my brain kicks in.

21 Years of Gratitude

Thursday, 19 October 2017

Today marks 7670 days clean & sober for me. That’s 21yrs for anyone trying to calculate that at home. (I cheated & used that info from an email someone sent me today. lol)

I am so very mindful of the miracles in my life the last 21yrs and even before that. It is miraculous that I lived to get clean; I shouldn’t have with all the chemicals I was mixing in my body and the dangerous, risky situations I put myself in. But I did live and I have thrived slowly but surely through the years. I am grateful for every singe second of my life; the hellacious to the blissfully joyous. Each and every second has brought me to where I am now.

Even when I am struggling in my life I know on a deep cellular level that it will work out. It may not work out exactly how I think it should but it will be ok. I know this because I was not supposed to live to see 21 much less 45. My higher power did not bring me this far to drop me on my ass now. If I remain open, keep learning, growing and doing the footwork then it will all work out just as it should.

It has taken a few villages to raise this kid in sobriety and I am grateful for each and every one of you today and every day. This chip & prayer are from me to all of you, past & present who have been with me on this journey, whether for a few minutes or many years.

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Prayer to the Great Spirit

Oh, Great Spirit,
whose voice I hear in the winds
and whose breath gives life to all the world, hear me.
I am small and weak.
I need your strength and wisdom.

Let me walk in beauty and make my eyes
ever behold the red and purple sunset.
Make my hands respect the things you have made
and my ears sharp to hear your voice.
Make me wise so that I may understand
the things you have taught my people.
Let me learn the lessons you have hidden
in every leaf and rock.

I seek strength, not to be superior to my brother,
but to fight my greatest enemy – myself.
Make me always ready to come to you
with clean hands and straight eyes,
so when life fades, as the fading sunset,
my spirit will come to you
without shame.